I was reading the blog post of a friend of mine the other day. Basically, she was stating how many times girls need a guy in order to feel content in life, or to make us feel significant and valuable. And I agree with her, why is that? At one point of another we have all been guilty of letting a guy influence what we wear, how we act, and where we go. Whether or not he has good or bad intentions in mind, we go along with it because we feel that somehow it will fill a void that has been empty in our hearts.
I would say that my friends are predominately Christian, or building a relationship with Jesus Christ. I have seen them all struggle with these problems at one point or another, and so have I. But sometimes, I don't understand why we don't just find that comfort and acceptance in the man we are supposed to be married to before an earthly guy- his name is God! He is married to the church (us) and wants to take care of us, love us, protect us, and make us feel special. All we have to do is love Him back, but many times we want to receive acceptance from earthly things instead of spiritual beings.
After reading her blog, I began to think of the character Mandy Moore played, named Jamie in A Walk to Remember. (Btw, if you haven't seen this movie, rent it, borrow it from a friend, even steal it! Well, don't steal it, but you get the idea.) She was a pastor's daughter, which basically means that everyone expected her to be perfect and not screw up at anything. This led to resentment from her peers and a great understanding for human emotions. When one of the popular boys, named Landon was forced to participate in the school play after getting in trouble, she could see his broken life and wanted to help him. Her only condition? That he wouldn't fall in love with her.
As they began to work on the play, Landon did in fact begin to fall in love with Jamie, but not that premature "love" where a guy just thinks the girl is hot and wants to sleep with her. Jamie set limits for him, and for a while refused to even go on dates with him and define herself as his girlfriend. She didn't need to feel special by him kissing her or even holding her close, although that wasn't something she hated either. As she had shown him by the middle of the movie, she had God taking care of her. He had shown her a love and comfort so deep that it had gotten her through school all those years of girls insulting her and boys treating her like a zebra in a herd of lions.
The part of the movie I loved the most was when Jamie told Landon she had a terminal illness. This is the point where you saw his true character. He was so upset and concerned with this fragile girl that he tenderly cared about, that he was willing to do whatever it takes to bring her back to health. It wasn't out of his own selfishness, because for the first time he began to truly look at someone else's life to see how he could improve it, instead of his own. In the end, he married her a year or so before she died. Although this seems a little corny, and maybe even unrealistic, the topics in this movie speak volumes.
Through watching this movie, I realized a few things:
1) Some boys don't understand how extremely fragile girls are. I'm not trying to bash boys, because there are many guys who do. Girls just seem to never fall for those boys or even give them a second glance most of the time. Even those girls who act like they have it together and are always thinking of others before themselves, can be broken down at the words or even actions of a guy.
2) It takes alot more than a pretty, nice girl to change a boy who doesn't have his heart in the right place. It takes God more than anything and a girl that is willing to work with a guy till the end to touch his heart and help him change.
3) This life is extremely short, and you have to take advantage of everyday that is given to you, whether it is romantically, or with your family, or even just people around you.
Even by senior year in highschool, there are going to be boys that are immature when it comes to their thoughts and actions towards girls. They don't try to do it on purpose, but that can be their nature sometimes. The only true thing that will help pull them through this stage in their lives is God. Not 25% of him though, or even 80%. I am talking about 110% of Him and only Him. God is love, and therefore he is the ultimate source of comfort in this world and He thinks you are significant. I'm not saying become a nun and never look at another boy again, but think of it this way: There is hope in this world for you to find your Landon. Even though it may seem that it's impossible, it isn't. You have to have hope. But at the same time, girls especially need to guard their hearts, because they are too precious to constantly keep breaking because of a boy that wasn't even worth it. You are beautiful beyond measure, whether a man that you have feelings for realizes it or not. Don't expect any less than your Heavenly Father has already given you. So when you think you have a guy that is decent, loves you, but most importantly God, pray to Him about it first, and let him guide you. He will never let you down.
“To the world you may be just one person, but to one person you may be the world.”- Brandi Snyder
Be patient, and God will show you the man you have been waiting for at the perfect time in your life. Until then, keep growing in your relationship with the Lord and you will be contented until that time.
Love you guys <3
